I’ve been inspired to write this by someone who for years has compared herself to others. What they have, what rhey do, how they behave.
What she doesn’t see is what happens behind closed doors. We all have money problems, relationship problems, issues with children and friendships, other family members and over committing to community events. But everyone does their best to keep up with what they think everyone else is doing. And it goes on and on and on. Everyone struggles and nobody has a lesser struggle than anyone else. Just different. Just like none of us are lesser people than others just different.
See everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.
If people wore their problems around their neck so we could all see it would be easier in that sense. But the best answer I can think of for that is simply to talk. Openly and honestly because you can just about bet your life that as soon as you say something, the other person opens up too. And then we have understanding that life is hard. For all of us. No matter what it seems like on the outside.
And as a side note to, and again for this same person our struggles are different, not less than anyone else’s. Just because someone breaks their leg, the pain of your stubbed toe does not lessen. We are each given different things at different times and often it does seem unfair but remember life is transient. Always changing. This weeks troubles will be different to next. And in 5 years things will be different again.
The biggest struggle I think we have as humans is that we stay quiet when what we all need is for people to open up. Be honest. Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses. Because they don’t exist. It’s okay not to be okay all the time. Because that’s where support comes from and community is built. Because sometimes you can’t make it on your own.